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Read MoreCouples Facing Retirement
Retirement can change how much time partners spend together, who does what, and what each of you expects from the years ahead.
Rebecca Victor, LP-D
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Couples Facing Retirement
Retirement can change how much time partners spend together, who does what, and what each of you expects from the years ahead.
More time together
After years of separate workdays, partners may suddenly share much more of each day. That can be enjoyable and also surprisingly stressful. Habits that were easy to overlook can become harder to ignore.
Different pictures of the future
One partner may want travel and new projects while the other wants rest or more time with family. These differences are normal and worth talking about before they harden into resentment.
Identity and the relationship
When work has been central to one partner's identity, retirement can bring loss and uncertainty that affect the relationship. Couples therapy can make room for both partners' experiences.
Beginning together
A free 15-minute consultation is a place to ask about fit and practical arrangements. Onboarding happens only after you both agree to try working together.
Frequently asked questions
Do we need to be retired already?
No. Some couples come while planning retirement and others after it begins.
Can one partner come individually?
Yes. Individual therapy is also available to explore your own experience of the change.
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Ask about a free 15-minute consultation. Onboarding follows only after you agree to try working together.